Sunday, March 23, 2008

Keeping Yourself, in the presence of another

The funny thing about life is that it is organic... it grows, it thrives, it retreats, it ebbs, it flows.

I am once again in a place of transition. I've ended a major relationship with the father of my 2 children. My house is for sale. I'm coming to find out what it means for me to be a single woman again (as the person I am now). And there is a possible new job on my horizon.

As each week passes a little more freedom is found. As the weather warms each day a new song sings within my soul. This indeed is a time for transformation. A time for me to celebrate in the newly found freedom of what I have and have FUN doing so.

And I have been sick... curious that. It seems I got sick when I started to remember and explore the fun I used to have. It's been pretty steady I'm in my 3rd weekend of being sick. All my symptoms are on my left side of my body. Sore throat, Fever (all of me), rash, now my left eye has a cold in it. What am I not paying attention to?

As I pondered this last night soaking in my tub it came to my awareness that I need to make sure I do not lose myself in the freedom I am experiencing. I still need to nurture and grow who I am as I am engaging with others. I need to remember who I am and remember to check in with myself to see if the impulse to do or not do something is serving me. Is it my gut instinct? Or am I just going with the flow because it feels good? Does it matter?

Why is it that for 2 years I could be around sick people and not get sick, yet now I started this off on my own? It there more to it then viruses, infections and germs? I think so. Being run down, exhausted and not taking care of yourself generally makes you more susceptible to becoming sick.

Perhaps it is simply all I have been going through exhausting me. However I know that for me thrown into that mix, is keeping myself in the presence of another.

Whatever will tomorrow bring? Life, Love, Laughter... after all I can create it. Want to know a secret? So can you!

Tuesday, March 18, 2008

Power, Priviledge and Perception

Today I went to see Jane Elliott speak at Pier 21 in Halifax. Her lecture was entitled Power, Privilege and Preception - The Anatomy of Prejudice.

Earlier this year I had the opportunity for the first time to see a video of an experiment Mrs. Elliott did with her Grade 3 school children in response to the assassination of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

This video made in the 1968 (40 yrs ago) holds such a lesson that still today it is relevant to recognize where in our soceity and personal lives we may be attempting to hold power over our fellow human beings. You can see a clip of the follow up Frontline report on it here.

Today some of the things that resonated with me were when Mrs. Elliott spoke how we should see each other for all the differences we have and how we should embrace that, not striving for us to all be the same.

"When I look at you I don't see a colour"... bullshit... that is one of the first things we notice... and there is nothing wrong with that. Kind of like being tall or short, a man or a woman, except we still choose not to talk about noticing the colour of ones skin... like it is a bad thing.

I see you! I see you as the black woman you are... I see the beautiful hues of all of us... and I notice that you are not me... and I am not you... that is why life is so amazing.

Each one of us... because of our colour, religion, creed, ethnicity, sexuality, social status, life expereinces is a very unique individual who can bring such richness, awareness and awakening to those who care to see us.

I want to see and be seen. I want to hear and be heard. I want to feel and be felt. I want to live in appreciation of all that is different about us... knowing that we all ultimately are connected.

As we go about our day to day life... accept what is there already in our filters and perceptions of the world and thing about how we can change that if we choose. By standing up and being counted... working on Eliminating Discrimination of all sorts.

Thursday, March 06, 2008

In the Moment

Life can go by in the blink of an eye, if you allow it to.

The pace of the rat race, of getting to the next step, can make you forget those moments in time. And all of the sudden 5 years have gone by.

Your babies are no longer your babies.

Your hopes and dreams did not get realized.

Your happiness seems to have been misplaced.

Live in the moment.

Forget for a while about the “should have”, “could have”, “would haves”.
Forget for a while about the “got to” and the “have to” and remember it’s all a choice.

Living in the Moment…

The feel of a warm breeze on a sunny day.

Your child’s breath on the side of your cheek.

The sensation of your heart opening and quickening around someone you love.

The beauty that nature shows us.

The comfort of knowing you are among loving friends.

Slowing down and allowing yourself to notice. Enjoy and be thankful in these gifts; moment to moment. Time will slow down along with you.

Enjoy living in the moment.