Have you ever known you have to have a difficult conversation and you walk around dreading it for days, weeks, months... maybe you haven't allowed yourself to have that conversation yet?
Perhaps keeping that idea of having that conversation locked up inside of you so long you become numb to it, forget it's even there waiting to be had.
You mind and habitual behavior create inner turmoil. If I have this conversation my life will forever change... do I want to go there? More importantly what will happen to me if I don't?
You need find that place of clarity in yourself and open that gate... once the conversation has begun you are through and walking into the unknown on the other side.
The unknown... it isn't a scary place... it can be a very creative place... designing your life differently... in a way that is meaningful for you.
Thursday, November 29, 2007
Monday, November 19, 2007
Coming Together
Something last week just clicked for me. May have been the conversation Louise and I had in a coaching session (probably had a lot to do with it).
My shoulders are a little lighter, my mind a little clearer, my vision a little bigger.
I feel like I'm back to who I know I am. Who I've come to be, after being 'away' let's say. I think we all can get caught up at times, being pulled in many directions from many different people.
It isn't about other people doing it to you, it is about learning where to draw the line in the sand... Where to say No.
Or having the power and clarity to change your mind when you no longer feel you can do what you are doing, in a healthy manner.
Knowing that saying No does not mean I am not good enough to do it. Saying No, does not make me a bitch or lazy.
Saying No means, I want to do the quality of work I know I can do. Saying No is how I know how to do it... I need space and room for my creativity to happen, taking on another task compromises this.
Allowing yourself to know they truth that lies deep within yourself. Truth that may be difficult or scary to consider let alone accept, because of the implications you have imagined are attached to them.
Knowing that truth, having it in your awareness, and knowing there is nothing you have to do about it, if you don't want to... simply know it.
That in itself provides a different type of clarity and vision.
It's all coming together. Piece by piece, insight by insight, awareness and thoughts, allowing me to come together and be.
Life is good... there is always more.
My shoulders are a little lighter, my mind a little clearer, my vision a little bigger.
I feel like I'm back to who I know I am. Who I've come to be, after being 'away' let's say. I think we all can get caught up at times, being pulled in many directions from many different people.
It isn't about other people doing it to you, it is about learning where to draw the line in the sand... Where to say No.
Or having the power and clarity to change your mind when you no longer feel you can do what you are doing, in a healthy manner.
Knowing that saying No does not mean I am not good enough to do it. Saying No, does not make me a bitch or lazy.
Saying No means, I want to do the quality of work I know I can do. Saying No is how I know how to do it... I need space and room for my creativity to happen, taking on another task compromises this.
Allowing yourself to know they truth that lies deep within yourself. Truth that may be difficult or scary to consider let alone accept, because of the implications you have imagined are attached to them.
Knowing that truth, having it in your awareness, and knowing there is nothing you have to do about it, if you don't want to... simply know it.
That in itself provides a different type of clarity and vision.
It's all coming together. Piece by piece, insight by insight, awareness and thoughts, allowing me to come together and be.
Life is good... there is always more.
Thursday, November 08, 2007
December Conscious Parenting Workshop
This 2 day weekend workshop is being offered to parents or parents-to-be to consider a different way of living and nurturing their children’s brilliance and individual expression.
Through these sessions Lori will be inviting participants to discover a new perspective on parenting. Inviting them to find their authentic self and to consider how they can co-create meaningful family relationships with their children.
It is an invitation for participants to recognize their programmed behaviours (unconscious parenting) and to become more actively aware in the parenting behaviours (conscious parenting).
Date: December 1st and 2nd, 2007 (Sat & Sun)
Location: Growing Foward, Personal Growth Services
1153 Cole Harbour Road, Dartmouth
Time: 10:00 a.m. - 4:00 p.m. (Sat & Sun)
Price: $85.00 for complete workshop, breaks, workshop manual, 1 CD from the Living WELness Series.
Your workshop guide is Lori Walton, certified WEL-Systems® Master Facilitator and Quantum TLC™ Facilitator.
To find out more please contact Lori Walton at (902) 461-9169 or e-mail mailto:potential@eastlink.ca
Exploring Our Potential Consulting 2007
Through these sessions Lori will be inviting participants to discover a new perspective on parenting. Inviting them to find their authentic self and to consider how they can co-create meaningful family relationships with their children.
It is an invitation for participants to recognize their programmed behaviours (unconscious parenting) and to become more actively aware in the parenting behaviours (conscious parenting).
Date: December 1st and 2nd, 2007 (Sat & Sun)
Location: Growing Foward, Personal Growth Services
1153 Cole Harbour Road, Dartmouth
Time: 10:00 a.m. - 4:00 p.m. (Sat & Sun)
Price: $85.00 for complete workshop, breaks, workshop manual, 1 CD from the Living WELness Series.
Your workshop guide is Lori Walton, certified WEL-Systems® Master Facilitator and Quantum TLC™ Facilitator.
To find out more please contact Lori Walton at (902) 461-9169 or e-mail mailto:potential@eastlink.ca
Exploring Our Potential Consulting 2007
Silencing ourselves is usless
I read Sarah's Blog today and felt the outrage inside of me, felt the tears come to my eyes, felt my face getting hot.
What strikes me is how often we take some "experts" word on something, knowing that it might not feel right inside, yet saying "what can I do about it?"... washing their hands of the situation.
Without even questioning it.
Not listening to our inner voice.
Not even going for another opinion.
So nothing changes.
Silence is our own worst enemy.
Remaining silent causes illness. Remaining silent causes conflict. Remaining silent causes stress and breakdown. Remaining silent allows atrocities that are happening in our world to continue to happen.
All it takes is for you to open your mouth. Express how you feel. Speak from the truth of your own experience.
The world changes, one by one.
Your truth will find that which is the truth in another's experience. And their truth is awakened to the possibility of being expressed as well.
In other words by speaking your truth you inspire others to speak theirs.
As we each go about speaking our truths, not willing to be silent anymore, society can no longer ignore the things we have stopped talking about because it is unpleasant or sad to think about.
The world will change... it takes courage, clarity, connection and voice.
What strikes me is how often we take some "experts" word on something, knowing that it might not feel right inside, yet saying "what can I do about it?"... washing their hands of the situation.
Without even questioning it.
Not listening to our inner voice.
Not even going for another opinion.
So nothing changes.
Silence is our own worst enemy.
Remaining silent causes illness. Remaining silent causes conflict. Remaining silent causes stress and breakdown. Remaining silent allows atrocities that are happening in our world to continue to happen.
All it takes is for you to open your mouth. Express how you feel. Speak from the truth of your own experience.
The world changes, one by one.
Your truth will find that which is the truth in another's experience. And their truth is awakened to the possibility of being expressed as well.
In other words by speaking your truth you inspire others to speak theirs.
As we each go about speaking our truths, not willing to be silent anymore, society can no longer ignore the things we have stopped talking about because it is unpleasant or sad to think about.
The world will change... it takes courage, clarity, connection and voice.
Thursday, November 01, 2007
Speaking Up... Speaking Out
It is as simple as that.
Generally we tend to make assumptions that things are all our own and we just have to learn to suck it up and deal with it.
Rarely (as women) do we voice what we want. Actually put words to what we would like to happen.
Men do not seem to have as much of a problem saying no as women do? Why is that?
Is it because it has only been in the last 50 yrs that we have been given a chance in the work place? Is it because when we were "allowed" to go to work in the corporate environment (other than secretarial positions) that we had to prove ourselves? That we could handle it?
Why is it that I felt (internalized) that I would be looked at as a failure if I couldn't do it all?
And the answers don't matter.
What matters is that I remembered. I remembered who I am, that yes I am in charge of the design of my own life (like you are yours).
I spoke up. I expressed what I was feeling and was clear that I would not be able to continue doing it all.
The outcome?
The weight of it all is lifted from my shoulders and temporary help is being hired to assist me.
My input and background on this major project is to valued to put someone else on it... however all of the other tasks I was concerning myself with wanting to get done because I know they needed to get done... the things that will take forever to do but would be such a great asset to our unit... will now get done by someone else, at my direction (with input from others).
Sometimes all you need to do to release pressure you may be feeling is to express it... speak up and speak out about your "enough is enough" point. Be clear and be proactive.
You might be surprised with the outcome... I was.
Life is good... there is always more.
Generally we tend to make assumptions that things are all our own and we just have to learn to suck it up and deal with it.
Rarely (as women) do we voice what we want. Actually put words to what we would like to happen.
Men do not seem to have as much of a problem saying no as women do? Why is that?
Is it because it has only been in the last 50 yrs that we have been given a chance in the work place? Is it because when we were "allowed" to go to work in the corporate environment (other than secretarial positions) that we had to prove ourselves? That we could handle it?
Why is it that I felt (internalized) that I would be looked at as a failure if I couldn't do it all?
And the answers don't matter.
What matters is that I remembered. I remembered who I am, that yes I am in charge of the design of my own life (like you are yours).
I spoke up. I expressed what I was feeling and was clear that I would not be able to continue doing it all.
The outcome?
The weight of it all is lifted from my shoulders and temporary help is being hired to assist me.
My input and background on this major project is to valued to put someone else on it... however all of the other tasks I was concerning myself with wanting to get done because I know they needed to get done... the things that will take forever to do but would be such a great asset to our unit... will now get done by someone else, at my direction (with input from others).
Sometimes all you need to do to release pressure you may be feeling is to express it... speak up and speak out about your "enough is enough" point. Be clear and be proactive.
You might be surprised with the outcome... I was.
Life is good... there is always more.
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