Getting Over Yourself

How many times in our lives do we remain silent?

How often do we think we “know” how someone will react if we approach them?

How many times do we allow ourselves not to go that route because we think we know the outcome?

How often are we selling ourselves short, limiting our own growth, allowing relationships to get stale… all because we doubt ourselves… doubt in our truth, doubt in our voice, doubt in our magnificence.

Get over yourself.

If you perceive someone as limiting you at work, are you going to be the victim?
If you perceive your relationship as hitting a rough spot, do you remain silent?
If you perceive others of turning away from you if you speak your truth, do you live a lie?

Get over yourself.

What I have come to realize in my life is that 95% of how I believed others would react to something I had to say, do or ask was in fact made up in my head. You don’t know how someone is going to act / react until you open your mouth to engage with them.

The majority of the time you have worried yourself sick thinking about saying something and if you actually gather up the courage to do it you are pleasantly surprised by the outcome.

What is the right thing to say?

Should I even bring that up?

What if they laugh?

What if they think I’m stupid?

What if he/she leaves me?

What if they take offence?

What if?

What if you don’t? You will never know. You will never grow. Things will never change.
What if you remain silent? People may not have seen what you saw; they won’t have the opportunity to make different choices.

Get over yourself.

By remaining silent about what is important to you, by allowing your fear the unknown and kept silent (not engage) you are limiting yourself.

By not asking for what you want others will never know and it will be 100 times harder to get it, don’t let the stories you tell yourself get in your way, people love to help other people… just ask.

It boils down to voice.

Being willing to speak authentically, about what is meaningful to you.

Being willing to take a breath and engage with the person you hold as having something you want or the keeper of that thing and let them know how you feel.

Being willing to be vulnerable, to say “I am nervous about asking you this and it has prevented me from approaching you in the past but…” I have seen this open up a whole different dynamic between two people. One who was always intimidated and the other who didn’t even know they were being perceived as being intimidating.

Being willing to accept the consequences and being resourceful with yourself, what ever the outcome may be. This is what I want in my life, nothing less, can you do that? If not I am happy to be on my own.

And if you don’t speak, nothing will change, except for inside of you when you become bitter, cynical, and depressed.

Get over yourself.

You are the only one who controls your life.

You are the only one who makes choices on your own behalf from moment to moment.

Own those choices.

Celebrate in the knowledge that they are your choices.

Take control of how you move through your world.

Live at Cause.

And live a full and meaningful life by your own design.
Tomorrow is a new day… there is always more.